I see a lot of headlines on Twitter every day. Most of them read like boilerplate blog posts; they start with a “How I” or “Why I” or “Why You Should/Shouldn’t” headings. **snoozefest**
However, once in awhile a headline pops out from the crowd & doesn’t read like it was created over at the Headline Generator for Lazy Writers. Such was the fun yesterday when Marc Ensign graced the blogosphere with what has to be the WORLD’S greatest “How to Blog” post ever! (There’s even a Clean Version of it if the profanity in the article offends you.)
In THE ULTIMATE GUIDE TO BLOGGING YOUR A** OFF, Marc listed out the basic tenets of what one must do in order to have a killer blog. According to Marc you MUST:
- Be Authentic
- Be Scared to Publish
- Have a F*ing Opinion
- Give a S**t
- Be Extraordinary
- Embrace Your Shortcomings
- Write for the Right Reason
- Be Human
- Be a Giver
The bullet points are the article subheadings and while yes, you can get the gist of the article by skimming it – don’t. You’ll miss some funny, witty, and genuinely well crafted writing. (Anytime you can take something as mundane as the over-blogged topic of “how to write a good blog/blog post” and turn it into something actually worth reading: I will LOVE it!)
The point of it all is that if it’s your blog – be yourself – say what you want – don’t say it if you don’t want to – and be willing to take the heat that comes along with vomiting your opinion all over the blogosphere. On the flip side of that, if you don’t want to do all these things: then don’t. Shut your blog down and go away. (That’s what I got out of it – you may get something else entirely – who knows.) If you can’t bring those things to the table with your blog, your blog is just flat doomed to fail. (**According to Mark, anyway. LOL)
And This Got Me Thinking…
Here’s the current issue I’m chewing on with regards to jumping back on the blogging bandwagon: I’ve been there and done all that over on an old, well-indexed (now hidden) blog that I had going for YEARS. (It actually predates WordPress!) As the years rolled by and the stats rolled in, I noticed a trend – most people were coming to my blog to read something I had posted that centered on topical information – not so much opinions and commentary. (Thanks to my awesome SEO skillz – you know, back when SEO was just good, old fashioned, writing.) In fact, what blows me away is that of all the information on my blog, the most clicked posts were for recipes that I shared from other sites and obscure videos that I had embedded before they were pulled off of YouTube (not racy videos y’all! Just copyrighted with lots of restrictions -like SNL vid’s etc.)
20th Century Blogging Best Practices
Back in the day you blogged for the sake of blogging. You didn’t write for the sake of self-promotion, Adsense revenue, affiliate revenue, or for climbing the proverbial ladder in whatever fishbowl/niche of blogging you were involved. You blogged because the idea of writing for a huge audience of unknowns was liberating for you. You wrote because you found a safe place to express yourself. You experienced a sense of freedom to opine on a wide variety of topics, or in a specific niche field. Basically, you blogged for a lot of different reasons; but it wasn’t really for anything else other than the sake of writing.
Today the blogosphere is overflowing with how to’s about SEO, revenue, traffic, stats, the glorification of self, and perpetuating the current falsity of social circles online. And frankly, that kind of energy makes me retract.
Ear Plugs, Anyone?
If you know me in real life you know I’m not naturally competitive to the point that I actually care about impressing the masses. Which is why I think my blog may be doomed. Frankly, between all the different social media channels I’m on, HipChat for work, writing for clients, and excessive texting between friends and family, I’m seriously just tired of hearing my own voice in my own head ALL. THE. TIME.
As a former avid blogger, I have arrived at a point in life where I really just don’t care about blogging anymore. Having run blog-like sites since the late 1990’s, this whole “blogging is the new black” thing seems somewhat silly. It’s really nothing personal, friends-who-blog-regularly, it’s just I have the “been here done this” feeling in my gut about it all and I’m not sure I’m ready to dive back into the pool with everyone else.
Is There Anything NEW To Say, Anyway?
The other thing I’ve decided about blogging is that someone, somewhere, has already said it – probably better than I have or will ever say it. So, really, what’s the point? It seems to me, and forgive me for being so blunt, but there’s nothing really NEW on the internet. Someone has written the program you think you’ve coded out of thin air, someone has created a WordPress theme that’s pretty darn close to what you’re looking for, someone has a plugin that will do what you’re trying to do, someone has already said whatever it is you think you’ve cleverly come up with on your own.
Blogging: AKA – How To Steal Time From Your Kids And Justify It.
And do you know how much time it takes to write a GOOD blog post? I always look at it like, “Ok. I could write that blog post about that specific topic…SEO it…Link It…Promote it… or… I could go chill out with my kids. Lately – like for the past couple of years – I’ve picked chilling out with my kids and in all those years no one has said, “Man, Sarah, we really miss reading your obnoxious point of view on this or that current event, topic, etc. so on and so forth..”
I feel like trying to post a personal blog where I impart my wisdom to the world would be a futile attempt towards nothingness. I’m not sure there’s any way around it.
Considering I never post about non-mundane stuff, I *know* this post isn’t for me, but (you know me) I’m going to add my $.02 anyway. I blog because I can’t choke people. (It’s kinda illegal.) I over think life. To the point that, when I get it on paper/screen, it’s actually pretty funny how stupid my brain is most of the time. It’s the cheapest form of therapy I’ve found. There are approximately four people who read my blog regularly and I’m pretty sure it’s only because they are related to me (or should be). Now, I don’t blog around the kids. Because who can think straight when the Mommy-siren is on? And, frankly, it seems kind of mean to blog about princess crybaby and her histrionics IN FRONT OF HER. *giggle* I usually blog at unholy hours of the day and program them to go live when people are awake and the four people that read my blog might see the posts.
I love your blog. I love your opinions (even when I think you are off your rocker OR so far up on your high horse they need a new ladder to get up there to you). I think you should blog if you want to. (hey, isn’t there an 80s song kinda like that?)
And re: breaking up with facebook – I’m jealous friend. Like a brokeback mountain cowboy, I ask facebook all the time, “why caint I quit you?”
❤
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BWAHAHAHAHAHA
GIRL!!
LOL I’m laughing so hard at the brokeback mountain cowboy quote! HAHAHAHA That’s awesomely funny!
Unfortunately we live way too close to each other for you to ever miss me. So. We’ll keep up IRL. 🙂
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Great post Sarah! I’m honored that some little thing I wrote triggered you to come out with this. (stands up and begins to slow clap awkwardly waiting for the rest of the group to join in)
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Some little thing? Your post was 1) awesome and 2) very well put together (another way of saying awesome.) It was no way some little thing.
I will say this – I have been thankful to find a handful of blogs to start reading again since jumping back onto twitter and in the WordPress community at large. For a long time my blog roll was just really boring. It consisted of mainly me and Sherri (see other comments) and neither of us really blog anymore – so I’ve been a little less inspired lately.
Your blog may change all that. BWAHAHAHAHA
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That’s awesome!! Well, thanks for that! And I love the sinister laugh. Sounds a lot like mine:
BWAHAHAHAHA
See?
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🙂 Your blog rocks. I’m going to dig into it more over the next couple of weeks.
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Nice post, Sarah. I have bullet #2 down to the degree that nothing gets posted. Mainly because of fear of not being bullet #5. There’s really so few good blogs out there because good writing isn’t easy. And the blogs worth reading have very good writing. jamesaltucher.com is a really good blog because he does all of those things on the list. You can read about how much he actually practices his writing. It’s a lot. I’d add another to the list – provide something that people can learn from – even, or especially, if it’s due to your own F-ups (I’m self sanitizing for you).
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Sarah, I totally understand everything you said. I have only posted a scarce few blog posts in the last 5 years. One of the biggest reasons why I don’t do it more is because of how LONG it takes me to write my thoughts down and then edit it. A 2nd reason is because I feel like others have said what I want to say, and said it better than me……..so everybody just go read what so-and-so said. And the last reason is because I want to live my life rather than talk about living my life. There’s a huge difference. And you are SO right. Your kids will be grown and gone tomorrow. It feels that fast. Then you can blog about all the great “kid stories” you’ll have to tell, or any other topic that interests you. So kuddos to you!! Great blog post, LOL!!
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Shawn!
Wow, I’m so relieved to see that I’m not the **only** one not feeling it these days!
I wonder if it’s because of where we are in our family life/size/style? I don’t know about you, but the older they get, the more they want me around, the more attention they want, the more attention they need, and I just can’t justify telling them “No, sorry, I really must crank out this blog post about the pros/cons of using no-follow links.” LOL! I’d MUCH rather defer to others on those subjects, and go fishing!”
Like – at this very moment – my 3rd grader is writing in cursive on my white board!! ❤ ❤ ❤
Kids are so much fun. And they'll be gone so soon. In 10 yrs I'll have all the time to blog about whatever I want. 🙂
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I think you’re probably right about the impact of family life/size/style.
As a freelancer, I spent decades “hustling,” working all hours of the day and night, and giving my highest priority to work. I slowly began to realize that it would NEVER be enough.
Today, I’m reluctant to give myself to anything that says, “Gotta be more. Gotta do more.”
With three young kids, I realize that this time is flying by so fast — and these formative years are such a tiny window — that I want to make the most of every one of them. And that means giving a lower… MUCH lower priority to work.
So when I see friends of mine talking about “hustle,” and how you’re not “crushing it” if you’re not plugged in 24/7, I just smile and walk away.
I doubt anyone lying on their death bed has thought to themselves, “I wish I’d taken on a few more client projects,” or, ”Sure wish I’d blogged more.” 🙂
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LOL – obituary reads: “Crappy parent. Award winning blogger of .. well… oops…looks like she forgot to renew her domain name. Oh well. She’ll be missed by…we aren’t sure.” LOLOL
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Hahahahahaha! That’s hysterical! Only because it’s so true. Who the hell cares what we write on our blogs. Blah, blah, blah, blah. But our kids really do care if we are there for them or not. And that’s where I wanna be. Sarah, you are so witty and have the funniest way of saying things. I loved this comment. Almost makes you wanna blog, huh?? Hahahahaha, I’m making myself laugh.
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Thanks for sharing your thoughts about this, and for being so honest.
I think I’m deep in the same “cemetery” right now, so I look forward to reading any comments/encouragement your other readers might share here.
But I think you summed up many of my own feelings about blogging, which is why I struggle to blog more than a few times a year. Thanks again!
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