I’ve spent some time today migrating my old blogs to my new blog. I can finally read through all our old Walston Family Nonsense posts w/o any hurt, anger, resentment, bitterness, stress, or depression!!
On Jan 1, 2016, I committed to just choosing to forgive Royce for being the abusive husband he was and the abusive ex-husband he remains.
It was hard.
But now I know why people say forgiveness is for “you” and not the person who hurt you. I rarely think about him anymore or all the abusive things that transpired over the almost 20 yr relationship. I can finally read my blog again and laugh at the fun things we did as a family.
I still don’t understand why his family has completely shut me out and won’t speak to me anymore. It’s as if I never existed. That’s still been hurtful. Everyone on that side acts like I just died. They have completely shunned me and have turned their backs on the children as well. But that’s how abusive and toxic families are to each other. It shouldn’t be this way – but that’s the reality they’ve chosen to try and inflict on me and the kids. It’s really their loss and our gain.
I might write about this issue more. The issue of coercive abuse and intimate partner violence and narcissistic people and their flying monkeys. Maybe. If I can’t think of anything better to write about.